Dear Julie,
I’m writing because I’m dealing with the loss of my father-in-law. It’s been a tremendous loss for my family. My husband is absolutely overwhelmed with grief. It was a very sudden and unexpected passing. My husband was the closest to his father out of the three siblings. His siblings didn’t have a relationship with their father, now all of the sudden there’s an interest in what can be had because of his passing.
There was no will, so now we have to deal with a long legal battle as well. We are in my father-in-law’s home until legal issues are settled. The home is beautiful but was left in very poor condition. There is massive cleanup along with extermination of mice and fleas. Plus all the animals that we are having a difficult time placing in good homes. I’m also very pregnant.
I struggle with my faith. I feel like God is working against us. It’s just too much to deal with all at once. I know one day at a time and that we’re never given more than we can handle, but this is too much for me. I feel like that’s not true anymore. I don’t want to lose my faith but I’m definitely losing my grip. I guess I need some encouragement. Thanks for your time. Please post anonymously.—Struggling with Faith
Dear Struggling with Faith:
You are going through a very stressful time of life . . . all of this when you ought to be able to focus on the little one you’re expecting. However, this is one of those times you just have to grit your teeth and work through the situation one day at a time.
With God’s grace and help, you can get through this. Don’t worry about losing your faith. When we are too weak or stressed to hang on to hope, God holds on to us. Do your best to do what you need to do without bitterness toward your husband’s siblings. Unfortunately, death and the possibility of inheritance often bring out the worst in people. Let the courts take care of probate and the legalities; and, if possible, see if you can’t receive some recompense for all the work you are doing. That’s only fair.
Since your husband was close to his father, he will need your help and support as he struggles with his grief and everything else you both need to do. One thing is most important–your baby. Take good care of yourself for the sake of this little one. This baby will be a blessing to all of you as you deal with your recent loss.
God bless you. Julie